Jan 21, 2022
In this episode, I am diving
into my understanding and lessons about the energy of
worrying. According to Psychology Today, “Worry tends to be
more focused on thoughts in our heads, while anxiety is more
visceral in that we feel it through our bodies. Our thoughts
create our reality, and the continuous response and energy of worry
is putting visceral stress on our bodies, so if we can change our
thoughts we can manage, shift or change what is happening inside of
our bodies. Thoughts of worrying are all future based,
focused on things we can’t control, and blocking us from how we can
control our present circumstances. It is an avoidance of
energy and actually a waste of our own energy, which is the only
resource we have to create change in our lives.
1)
Worrying is a habit. It is a response, a learned response to
post-traumatic stress. It also comes from avoiding doing the
healing work that our nervous systems require. It is living
in the future, creating a false sense of belief of control and not
living in the present moment. Sometimes the present moment is
too difficult or painful to live in, so we avoid it. We use
our energy to relive the past or try to control the future.
2) Healing requires focus on the present
moment, what we need to be our best selves and honouring what we
need, including the boundaries that we may be missing. Look
at what the triggers are, phone/screen use, lack of sleep,
stimulants, people, social media, and take radical responsibility
to change one small thing at a time.
3)
On one side of the paper, write down all of the things you are
currently worried about. The things that are taking up your
energy, mindset or thoughts all day long. Don’t edit this list,
brain dump it out with no judgement. Then on the other side
of the page check mark the things you can control and then put the
two numbers into perspective. Now script out the sentences
that shift your thinking or are the exact opposite of what you are
worried about.
4) The act of deep breathing (also called
diaphragmatic breathing) is a practice that enables more air to
flow into your body and can help to calm your nerves, reducing
stress and anxiety. This can help your focus, attention span,
nervous system, and help to promote healing. This takes work,
but start with recognizing where these emotions are starting
from.
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