Dec 20, 2021
In this "Monday mindset''
episode, I am sharing my experience, lessons learned and
experiences with the tough word called “boundaries”.
Especially coming into the Christmas season, this is the time where
boundaries are so important, necessary and truly a sign of
self-respect. So here is another episode on boundaries and I
know that it will serve you.
1)
Years ago, I didn’t even know what a boundary was or how to even
create one. Every time a counselor mentioned the word it felt
impossible and selfish for me to have boundaries in my life.
Little did I know that understanding, learning, and creating
boundaries would literally save my life. I knew I had to
share this with my clients and surprisingly very few people
understood boundaries.
2) Boundaries start with clarity about where you are feeling some anxiety in your life. Ask yourself what is missing, where you are feeling anxiety and what you know is missing. You know the answers.
3) Boundaries start with our values, and clarity on our values makes it easier for all the yes’ and no’s you will follow through with in your life and business. Once you have determined your values, take a look in your life to see where you can raise your standards, not your expectations. Raising your standards allows you to plan out your life accordingly to set yourself up for success. If you want a deeper understanding of standards and expectations, listen the Episode #122 Raise Your Standards Not Your Expectations, https://apple.co/32c6zaG
4) Boundaries are a moving line,
like a bubble. Not a hard line in the sand with no
negotiating and also recognizing that this changes every single
day. If you find that your self-care practices are low, your
stress is high, I guarantee your boundaries will be the next thing
affected. Catch this before it happens and unravels.
5)
Determine where your boundaries won’t work or where they tend to
break down. We have to recognize where things are not working so we
can put a plan into place to make it work. Our boundaries are
all about us, they aren’t about anyone else. We must set our
boundaries to honour the goals and priorities that we have set for
our own lives. This is the only way we can conserve and honour our
energy to be the best version of ourselves that we can be. No one
is going to do this work for you. It is 100% your
responsibility.
6) Boundaries are everywhere and encompass
everything, our time, energy, people, relationships, demands, work,
self-care, etc. Everything is impacted and affected by
boundaries.
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Marsha Vanwynsberghe — Author, Speaker and Life
Coach
Marsha is the 6-time Bestselling Author of
“When She Stopped Asking Why”. She shares her lessons as a
parent who dealt with teen substance abuse far past the level of
normal experimentation.
Through her programs, coaching and live events for women, Marsha is on a mission to teach you how to “Own Your Choices” in your own life. She teaches women how to own their stories, lead themselves and pay it forward to others by creating businesses that serve, support and impact others